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Online dating (what really drives us to try this?)

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Posted on Jul 29, 2009 at 07:07 PM Total posts: 36
Not sure how anyone else feels but sometimes I can lie awake at night for HOURS wondering if there will ever be another real partner for me? Have I already had all the happiness God has intended (relationship wise)in my life? My husband of 13 years, the father of my two sons, was killed in an accident 14 years ago and it seems that since then it has been a series of perhaps not "bad" relationships but ones that were less than acceptable for life mates. Not saying all were bad either... just not someone I could see myself hanging out on the front porch in our rocking chairs together many years from now. Make sense to you?
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Posted on Jan 28, 2012 at 11:59 AM Total posts: 36
Dazzle1961 I had found the perfect partner and we were engaged to be married. Although he seemed extremely healthy, he died suddenly on New Years day so I to am done. Perhaps some are just not meant to be.
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Posted on Jan 28, 2012 at 10:55 AM

I hope you do find perfect partner. However, probably odds are against us all.. I swore off any committment for reasons not anyone I know could give. It would be nice just to meet other horse loves sharing what we all love. It should be that simple.. Wish it was..

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Posted on Jan 14, 2012 at 05:28 AM Total posts: 36
I had actually reconnected with a childhood friend and we were engaged to be married although we had not yet set a date. I had finally found true love again and things were going well. He died suddenly of a heart attack (he was extremely healthy)on New Years Day. No more men for me EVER, it hurts too much. I will stick to horses.
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Posted on Jan 16, 2010 at 06:35 PM Total posts: 36
It's been a while gang... it turns out that the last "Mr Right" was more of a "Mr... perhaps not". I suppose that is the one problem with this online thing. It is just so hard to get to know someone from a great distance! So... you just jump in with both feet and test the water! This time it was a bit cool but next time it may be just right. I refuse to give up! I go to Austin, TX next month to visit my family and ride, perhaps there is someone that direction. Keep smiling and be happy!
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Posted on Nov 04, 2009 at 05:04 AM Total posts: 2
why is it so hard to find a good man ? when everyone on here seems to be looking for the same thing! And what is distance ? cos if the one that we were searching for lived next door then none of us would be on here
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Posted on Oct 27, 2009 at 08:13 PM Total posts: 36

Sorry for being a bit remiss in my rantings but I have actually met (we'll call it meeting for lack of a better term) someone on here who I am quite interested in getting to know. We talk on the phone for hours and seem to have a LOT in common but it is so difficult when you live 900 miles apart! It's not like you can meet for a drink and then extend it to dinner perhaps even a show if all is going well... it takes actual thought and planning! Wow, who knew dating could get so complicated! I thought this whole internet process would make things easier... I suppose it broadens the selection to "hopefully" find my perfect mate but I can't help feeling a bit nervous at the prospect of actually "meeting". I suppose there is only one way to approach it... JUMP! So, let's see where the next chapter leads!

Please feel free to share your experiences... I am pleased when others post their views, experiences or advice...

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Posted on Oct 15, 2009 at 10:12 PM Total posts: 5
I would be happy just to settle for a boyfriend who dosen't get a glazed over deer in the headlights look when I help break a horse or do barrels or brand cattle or help rope a bull or gut a fish... *one boyfriend I dated for like 3 months asked me if i had a death wish or was just prone to sucidal tendencies when i helped a friend out with a young horse - who didn't like going in the arena this colt cut lose bucking.I wasn't hurt the horse wasn't hurt and I helped a friend out it wasn't even at an event it was practice and it totally wasn't planned to have the horse buck... (I grew up helping my dad break colts its about the only skill he taught me.Since I was like 8. I don't put my self in any situation I can't find at least 3 scapegoats out of and I know my limitations and have a general respect for horses and don't assume I am an expert cause every horse is different and in a million lifetimes I can never learn enough to call myself an expert since nothing in life is 100%)
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Posted on Oct 05, 2009 at 09:12 AM Total posts: 36

OK... so I have stewed for a couple of days so now I will lay my latest quandry on my loyal followers. Profiles without photos! My expectations of my "perfect" mate are not off the charts or anything. I am not expecting him to look like he just shot the cover of GQ but I do feel there needs to be a bit of attraction and chemistry but most of all.... I want to know who I am communicating with! I understand being hesitant to put your photo out for all to see, I am a bit scared too, especially living in a small town where everyone knows everyone and what they had for breakfast! I suppose I should just let my heart absorb their words first perhaps that is their thought in not posting a photo... that is my rant for today! Happy trails all!

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Posted on Sep 28, 2009 at 01:04 PM Total posts: 36

Ok here I go again! Today I go to the doctor (I am currently recovering from a Labor Day mishap) and and while he is feeling around "Charlie", the rather sizable hematoma that refuses to go away my doctor looks up and says "so it's true that cowgirls really don't cry?". I said the only thing that came to mind at the moment and that was "we learn to choke down the physical pain, it's the emotional pain that causes tears but if you push down any harder you may find that this cowgirl HAS HER LIMITS!" Hope you all had a wonderful weekend and an uneventful Monday!¿

Why Charlie? I just figured if I were forced to live with (even temporarily) something that big and painful, it should have a name!

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Posted on Sep 26, 2009 at 11:43 AM Total posts: 4
I just read all of your comments about relationships - I know it does not work - no matter how much one tries - it has to be UNITED two minds for 'THE HORSE'. Here I am - LOVE horses and still have the most difficult time to find a horse lady, that will match my profile. Down in Texas I knew 5 horse ladies whose Husbands did not care about their ladies involvement with their horses - that could have been accepted & tolerated,but what was really was upsetting, their discouragement, and not even a bit of participation. - Now Divorced Ladies - On the other hand when you like to help some city folks to "join up", as Monty would say - LORD! you can get yourself in a heap of trouble. I even tried to help a NASA engineer widow - with one of my horses to sooth the pain of her recent death of her husband. I showed her for one month and longer, what she had to do, and only love the 22 year old very kind mare, by brushing, and walking. Who then would reciprocate her love - it worked wonders for awhile..., but after the third month this lady knew everything about horses, and MORE.... to everybody (barn people) dismay. Therefore in conclusion it is better to find a person who is still involved with horses and brings her own experience - but is not be so adamant with them - if you know what I mean - every trainer has their own methods - by the way the lady almost lost one of her finger - even after I indicated her numerous times not to feed my young colts from her hand , as she was breaking their carrots off in their mouth. TexaS
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Posted on Sep 23, 2009 at 08:59 PM Total posts: 36

Recently, a friend of mine informed me that some of my blog entries were a little "intense". I conducted my own research (I am sitting at home after a fairly severe mishap and I have absolutely nothing to do and I am bored out of my gourd not being allowed to get up and use the bathroom without permission much less ride my horses) and found that perhaps my entries to this blog are somewhat psychotic at times but hey, love me for who I am? I fight for my friends and loved ones with a fierce ferocity and I believe with the faith of a child. Ok, maybe the tooth fairy doesn't exsist but I still think my perfect mate does! Oh no!!!¿¿ He is not perfect in himself but neither am I (hard to deny when I put these thoughts out there for all to see). Good night sweet prince and all my horsey friends.

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Posted on Sep 06, 2009 at 07:30 PM Total posts: 36

Ok... here we go, back on topic. Wanting to find the perfect mate does not make me or anyone else "desperate". I have determined that in order to find my dream man out there... the one I can barely breathe when he is near.... the one whos slightest touch melts me completely, I have to be proactive! I know he is out there, I can feel him. He and he alone will understand my heart and my passion. What drives me and what drives my crazy (in a bad and positive way). Perhaps we are already communicating, perhaps we have yet to find each other but you do exist and I refuse to settle for some mediocre relationship just to keep from being alone. I do not fear my own company because some day my prince will come.

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Posted on Sep 03, 2009 at 08:38 PM Total posts: 36

I think I could handle 18 to 30 inches of snow per year... it's when it falls all at once when I have a problem! I actually looked at relocating that direction when I moved from Texas to Arkansas but since I knew nobody in either locale, I opted for the less remote! I love life and horses, so as long as I have those things, I can be happy. It just would be nice to have someone to share it all with!

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Posted on Sep 02, 2009 at 10:42 AM Total posts: 13
i really like montana and wyoming worked there when i was in college on my summer breaks love the snow back home in oregon to i miss the 18-30 inches we used to get every winter
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Posted on Sep 02, 2009 at 05:10 AM Total posts: 36

Not a whole lot of snow here. Maybe two or three snows per year. I think the most snow I have seen in seven years is about 8 inches. I love the snow, I am a big kid but I also like it to go away since this Hawaiian raised girl can't deal with it for too long! I am working my way up to Wyoming.

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Posted on Sep 01, 2009 at 04:38 PM Total posts: 13
how much snow do you get in back there?
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Posted on Sep 01, 2009 at 04:21 PM Total posts: 36

I just re-read my comment.... that was "snow shoe" their horses in winter! Not sure I could drive my truck in that kind of weather to work. Living here, I just ride my horse in ice and snow with a blanket to keep them toasty all day while I am working. Most of the town shuts down.

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Posted on Sep 01, 2009 at 02:02 PM Total posts: 13
you live at a lower elevation (less snow)im not sure about shoeing in the winter. or we could hibernate during the winter.
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Posted on Sep 01, 2009 at 11:43 AM Total posts: 36

My buckskin is from Wyoming... I'm sure she wouldn't mind going back to her roots ;-) I have not been to either state since I was a child but I know there are months of very high snow. Do people still shoe horses there in the winter... or do we hibernate?