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Perceptions - Looking Outside The Box

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To me, the failing of people, in this context men, is to think only within the constraints of everyday convention. Many of life's wonders and possibilities are overlooked because men as a whole tend to limit their perceptions at least where women are concerned. This has become especially clear to me in this online dating arena. Being someone who doesn't "fit the mold" of the average woman my age and mentality because I look and act a fair bit younger than the vast majority in my age bracket, I find myself excluded from the usual parameters when men do searches for "that special someone" particularly on a site that by its very nature has more physically active men. I don't want to lie about my age but am perplexed as to how I can positively influence this dynamic in my favor and still maintain my integrity.

Note - The pic is me climbing a tree with my grandsons last June....not something I'm prone to do much, but just proof of my outlook on life. Afterall, variety is the spice of life and we had a lot of fun.

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Please excuse my tardiness in replying to Linda. I'm glad you've managed to circumvent tradition and found a measure of fulfillment that works for you.

Since my original question has never been addressed (see initial question) by contributors or have any suggestions been forthcoming to solve my dilemma, it hasn't provided me with any insights into solutions, but I do appreciate the encouragement from those who have commented. Good luck to all of you.
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1 year ago
hi there. just glancing through this site which i haven't visited for a while...but just wanted to say i like your attitude to living as we get "older." i'm only in my 50's but i am fitter and healthier than 10/15 years ago. i stopped looking for a partner but i found a lovely (young) man anyway in sinai egypt. so just keep enjoying life and planet earth, blue skies, linda
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wow! That looks like you had some fun! I gave up a long time ago trying to fit the perfect ideal, If someone do like me for me then they can be square somewhere else. Varity is the spice of life and I want to live for me, not live for some perfect ideal.
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AWESOME LOL!¿ The last time I thought about climbing a tree, it was raining, and¿it was a¿pine tree with boards nailed up it to the tree stand LOL!¿ Internal risk assessment told me it was stupid¿to¿attempt that with a gun to boot!¿ But climbing trees is fun and scary at the same time.

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Thanks for commenting. I suspect you might be able to climb if you just gave it a try. Remember "The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step." It's really fun and allows the child in all of us to come through. We all need to do something for fun even if it isn't conventional.

Tip - You might want to wear sneakers or something that grips. I wasn't expecting to be up in that tree and had sandals on. Had to ditch them opting for barefeet which were a little tender, but I wouldn't have missed the¿fun with my grandsons¿for anything.