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Posted on Nov 25, 2008 at 05:05 AM

So, You want to know what I have learned about men? This was a question that was recently asked of me. It is what I have discovered that works in my life, and with my choices, while searching for a partner to share my life with. This may not be the type of man that other women desire, or even need in their lives. If you are a man, this may not be the type of man that you are, and may never be the man you choose to become. 1) The men that I find attractive have an unwritten code of honor that they practice daily. They have a reputation of integrity and show good manners at all times in public. They treat all people with respect, and do feel the need to be rude to others. When they are with me, (at least in public) they open doors for me,help me remove my coat, and pull out my chair when I sit at the table. There is no question as to who pays the bill when it comes. (Sometimes I will surprise him and pay it when before he knows what I have done...) It is interesting how many men like and want a woman who will let them be a "man." (What ever that really means) It took me many years to learn how to allow a man to treat me like a woman, or should I say, like a queen. I learned that I do not always need to be in control, and that it can be nice to let a man lead the way...when he wants to. 2) Many of the most powerful and wealthy men that I have met look like ordinary people. They usually have good posture and stand out in a crowd regardless of what they are wearing. They do not dress flashy (unless the occasion calls for it), and are often soft spoken and humble. However, when they are on stage, or doing their thing, these men have a presence that fills the room. They know who they are and do not need anyone's approval. 3) If they are interested in me, they will move heaven and earth to let me know. They pursue me. It seems that the harder they have to work to get my attention, the more they want me. I no longer chase a man. I have learned that there are men looking for a woman like me. As I result, I have become very selective and comfortable in taking my time, while waiting for the "man of my dreams." The men that I let into my world feel special and know that if they really want to capture my heart and soul, it will take time. 4) It takes more than fame or fortune to attract my attention. It is who the man is, and how he treats other people or animals that attract me. Most men know when a women is desperate for a man, or is after the money or fame that may come with him. This is a huge turn off for most men and they will find any excuse to get away from a woman like that. There are many women who will do "anything" to get their attention. I am not one of those women. Men sense this and know that I really do not need a man to take care of me, or to make my life better. They make sure that any time that they share with me is special. They plan ahead and look for new adventures to take me on that we will both enjoy. I make sure that the time they share with me is also very special... 5) Those who come on to me for sex quickly, before we even know each other, are not the type of man that I want. These men show who they are very early. They start talking about sex right away and are quick to demand a kiss, or try to put their hands on me in a sexual manner. This is a sure sign that they are not the man for me. This type of man will bed any women, anytime. They are not looking for a serious relationship and will not take the time to develop one. The type of man that I like will ignore the woman who comes across as being easy or accessible. These women are a dime a dozen (just like the men like them) and are not special. Men love it when I say no and they respect me for this. They know that this is important to me. The longer they have to wait,(not talking years here) the more they want me. The more they want me, the better they treat me. This was another lesson that took me a long time to learn... 6) There are many men who are attracted to powerful women who are confident, and who expect to be treated well. I have found that the man that I am looking for does not want a woman who will take care of him, or solve his problems. (well, maybe every now and than....) They like a women who is not afraid of who she has become, who will let him take charge part of the time, who likes to laugh and is fun, and flirts with him so that he feels, and knows, that he is desired as a man. This type of man wants a woman that he can take anywhere, who can handle any situation, or people, with grace and ease. He likes a woman who treats others with kindness and respect. 7) There are men who are attracted to a woman who can work hard physically or mentally. I find that they enjoy it when I can work along beside them, or when they watch what I do in my life. They like when I can change from my work attire, (and attitude) and return dressed up as a lady (or temptress) to play with them.... 8) When the time is right, sex is important. :) I will not go into detail here, but by the time we get to that point, they will be very happy that they waited. LOL! I like a slow build up, emotionally first, that leads to my body physically responsing. For me, the best part of sharing this, with a partner I care about, is the anticipation of what is to come. I like it when the sexual tension builds up to where I catch my breath as he touches me, or when he kisses me and my body quivers a little as it aches to feel his touch... That is when I start daydreaming and imagining what it would be like to be with him. By that time, even thinking about being with him makes me get excited. I like to be romanced, flirted with, teased, and slowly seduced. 9) I have learned that men like to give gifts and even though I can buy them myself, will allow them to bring me gifts of flowers, jewels, shopping trips, castles, or what ever they feel that they would like to give to me. I am not sure why some of them feel this is so important. But, have noticed that in certain circles it just something that men like to do. Or maybe it is simply the way that I treat them that makes them feel like a King, and it is their way of returning the gifts I share with them.... 10) Men need their personal space and quiet times so that they can clear their minds and plan for the next deal or plan of action. I also need this time to be alone. I do not like a man that clings or becomes dependent on my being with him everyday, every moment. 11) If a man says he is separated, or is recently divorced, I stay away. I prefer a man who has not been in a relationship for awhile. At least a year, if not longer. This tells me that they know who they are and do not need another person to make them happy. 12) A spiritual man is important to me. He does not need to be a member of any organized religion. However, if he trys to convert me to his beliefs, or makes fun of mine, I let him go. A man of spirit lives by an unwritten code of honor. They simply are who they are, while living through the spirit of all that is, and for the highest good of all concerned.

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Posted on Dec 19, 2008 at 07:10 PM

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Posted on Dec 10, 2008 at 06:17 PM

Nah Starhorse..... I just needed someone to bail me out of jail for removing my shirt at the roulette table. I'd have paid him back. Promise. :-(

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Posted on Dec 10, 2008 at 03:40 PM

Annie, Annie, Annie. They do say that blonds have more fun. Oh, wait. I do have blond highlights, or was that lowlights.... hmmmm. So, our Mr. Woodroe is now giving money away? YIPPEE! Let me get in line. I thought this was a horse dating site. Now I can see it is really for sugar daddies...or is that sugar cowboys. Oh, never mind. My mind is still not with me. If anyone sees it will you please send it back?

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Posted on Dec 08, 2008 at 08:06 PM

Quoting author: I'd like to see that...

Sorry Woodroe - I was too quick for ya! Hey by the way - can you spare me $250? Just wire it to my bondsman!

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Posted on Dec 08, 2008 at 02:59 AM

Quoting author: Starhorse! You would be surprised what us blondes can get away with. :-D However if I tried that today - I would be arrested for sure! Or at least clear the building. :-D

I'd like to see that...

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Posted on Dec 06, 2008 at 06:34 PM

Starhorse! You would be surprised what us blondes can get away with. :-D However if I tried that today - I would be arrested for sure! Or at least clear the building. :-D

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Posted on Dec 05, 2008 at 07:13 PM

Mr. Woodroe That was a very funny joke. lol! As to the blackberry brandy. I bet you wish you had some right now, right? Oh, never mind. I forgot about that cowboy apple pie...And yes, they say (and you know they are always right) that you should have some idea of what you are looking for. Or you could end up like the bull in the photo below. Did Annie say she has tried that? Annie, Annie, Annie...you are one hot horsewoman. Either that or you are blogging and drinking again...

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Posted on Dec 05, 2008 at 07:09 PM

Mr. Montana. Yes, I did left click that photo...but, it did not make much of a difference. I still need that flashlight to see who is back there. I think you need to post a better hair shot for us. Hmmmmmm. Maybe there is one on Erik's site? As you can see, this cowboy is much clearer in this photo. Would you mind laying across a table and showing us your hair this way?

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Posted on Dec 05, 2008 at 09:35 AM

Quoting author: WooHoo Starhorse! You are much braver than I am! I like to hold THOSE cards a little closer to my chest. It's good, you give them something to shoot for. In a forum on another site a girl had asked to have her profile reviewed. My only comment was for her to be more positive about what she was looking for. Give him a goal. Maybe after a little "liquid encouragement" I could elaborate, but don't count on it too soon. So everybody, if I do ever have a racy response to this you are allowed to call me down for my drunknedness! :-D whispered ditto. :-D

Maybe that's my problem I really haven't defined whut I wuz lookin' fer...

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Posted on Dec 05, 2008 at 07:29 AM

Quoting author: Hey Woodroe! Works every time! :-D

I'd like to see that...

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Posted on Dec 04, 2008 at 02:40 PM

Quoting author: Blondes Two bored casino dealers are waiting at the crap table. A very attractive blonde woman from Alabama arrived and bet twenty-thousand dollars (20,000) on a single roll of the dice. She said, "I hope you don't mind, but I feel much luckier when I play topless. "With that, she stripped to the waste, rolled the dice, and yelled, "Come on baby...Southern Girl needs new clothes! "As the dice came to a stop, she jumped up and down... And squealed..."YES! YES! I WON! I WON! "She hugged each of the dealers...And then picked up her winnings and her clothes, and quickly departed. The dealers stared at each other dumbfounded...Finally, one of them asked. "Whut did she roll? "The other answered, "I don't know...I thought you were watching. "Moral... Not all Southerns are stupid, Not all blondes are dumb, But all men are still men...

Hey Woodroe! Works every time! :-D

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Posted on Dec 04, 2008 at 12:05 PM

Quoting author: Starhorse, I'm not sure what Montana's blondestar comment meant, but I assumed it was directed to me because I hit a nerve with my rug comment. I'm glad you didn't get it either - may mean I'm not so blonde after all.

Blondes Two bored casino dealers are waiting at the crap table. A very attractive blonde woman from Alabama arrived and bet twenty-thousand dollars (20,000) on a single roll of the dice. She said, "I hope you don't mind, but I feel much luckier when I play topless. "With that, she stripped to the waste, rolled the dice, and yelled, "Come on baby...Southern Girl needs new clothes! "As the dice came to a stop, she jumped up and down... And squealed..."YES! YES! I WON! I WON! "She hugged each of the dealers...And then picked up her winnings and her clothes, and quickly departed. The dealers stared at each other dumbfounded...Finally, one of them asked. "Whut did she roll? "The other answered, "I don't know...I thought you were watching. "Moral... Not all Southerns are stupid, Not all blondes are dumb, But all men are still men...

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Posted on Dec 03, 2008 at 01:06 PM

Starhorse, I'm not sure what Montana's blondestar comment meant, but I assumed it was directed to me because I hit a nerve with my rug comment. I'm glad you didn't get it either - may mean I'm not so blonde after all.

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Posted on Dec 02, 2008 at 08:34 PM

Quoting author: Speaking of Lonesome Dove I had a pleasant surprise walking past the DVD rack in WalMart today. They've finally begun to restock LD - the collectors version in wide screen and digitally remastered (It is much sharper) I lost my original DVD to the last woman that stole my heart - she was from this site!!! Haven't been able to get her to return it over the past six months! Never let a woman fly home with the Bible!! Eh Woodroe? Even Laurie Darlin' ain't to be trusted. I accept your challenge Star... (enough hair for you?)

Montana, I lost my entire collection of Lonesome Dove movies the same way, good thing they were in VHS format. I have been more careful with my DVD"s but one Lady did make off with my Monty Walsh DVD but that's OK as it will most likely be fun pilferin' it back...


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Posted on Dec 02, 2008 at 07:50 PM

Quoting author: LOL! Comb your hair with a wagon wheel... You have some of the funniest expressions Mr. Woodroe. You probably think I know nothing about cowboy hats. Well, let me tell you. I have a beaver Stetson. (did I spell that right?) so there... and I do know how to set it down the right way.

A Beaver Stetson! Does that look anything a coonskin cap?


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Posted on Dec 02, 2008 at 06:08 PM

I brought a flashlight with. Maybe we can see Mr. Montana in a better light now ...Annie, do you need one? What about you, Mr. Woodroe? Mr. Montana...Did you lose a thumbnail? And what does this mean? "Blondestar advisor #586970 November 2, 2008 6:24 pm"

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Posted on Dec 02, 2008 at 04:52 AM

Annie. It is hard to tell as that photo is very dark, and small. Maybe we could get Mr. Montana to enlarge that photo...or make it into a poster size, or.....I think he is trying to hide from us. I am not sure if cowboys where rugs or not. Hmmmm. Interesting thought though. Maybe they have those fake hair kind of hats. You know, those baseball hats with the fake hair that is stuck in the back.. Or maybe that would be a great buisness idea. Cowboy hats with fake hair? Funny thing is that those of us who wear helmets, probably as much as "they" wear those cowboy hats, are never questioned as to our hair.

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Posted on Dec 01, 2008 at 07:58 PM

Hey Star.... Think Montana's wearing a rug? Pic is awfully dark.

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Posted on Dec 01, 2008 at 07:48 PM

Quoting author: Speaking of Lonesome Dove I had a pleasant surprise walking past the DVD rack in WalMart today. They've finally begun to restock LD - the collectors version in wide screen and digitally remastered (It is much sharper) I lost my original DVD to the last woman that stole my heart - she was from this site!!! Haven't been able to get her to return it over the past six months! Never let a woman fly home with the Bible!! Eh Woodroe? Even Laurie Darlin' ain't to be trusted. I accept your challenge Star... (enough hair for you?)

Well, look at what the wind blew in...Hello Mr. Montana. Welcome back to the funny farm. Sorry to hear you lost your LD copy. Good thing you can get another. Guess Laurie wants to keep a part of you with her. I have one word of advice for you. NEXT. You accept my challenge. LOL! I seem to have forgotten that I challenged someone. Are you sure that was me? LOL. Hmmmm. So, do you also round pen your women? I can see you now. Sitting in the middle of a round pen, (or the blogs) shifting sand through your fingers (or typing)as you watch all the fillies running round and round...(or those daring to blog) Than you will look them in the eye, with a smile on your lips, and a twinkle in your eye, and they will all come towards you wanting to join up. Now Mr. Woodroe would simply rope them, throw them over his broad shoulders, and take them home.

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